Hey diamond,

 

Let's have a heart-to-heart about something that completely transformed my life – affirmations. I know what you might be thinking: "Ugh, not that woo-woo self-help thing again!" Trust me, I felt the exact same way when I first started. But stick with me here, because what I'm about to share with you changed everything for me, and I know it can do the same for you.

 

We've all been there...

Does this sound familiar? You're sitting in your car during lunch break, maybe with mascara smudged under your eyes, wondering why everything feels so hard. Or perhaps you're lying in bed at night, scrolling through Instagram, feeling that familiar ache in your chest as you compare yourself to someone else's latest post.

These moments – these raw, sometimes messy moments – are often where the most beautiful transformations begin. Just like Louise Hay shares in "You Can Heal Your Life," it's usually when we're at our most vulnerable that we're finally ready to hear what our heart has been trying to tell us all along.

Let's be honest about those thoughts that might be running through your head right now:

 

✦ "I'm not experienced enough to go after that promotion"

✦ "Why does everyone else have it all together while I'm still struggling?"

✦ "Maybe I'm just not cut out for this"

 

If you're nodding along, know that you're not alone. Every woman who's ever achieved something remarkable started exactly where you are right now. Those same doubts, those same fears, those same negative thoughts – they're not signs that you're doing something wrong. They're signs that you're ready for something more.

Think of this moment as your invitation to change the conversation you've been having with yourself. As Gabrielle Bernstein would say, it's time to "transform your fear back to love." Because here's the truth: those thoughts that have been weighing you down? They're not facts – they're just stories. And starting today, you get to write a new one.

 

What Affirmations Really Are (And Why They Matter)

Let me break this down for you: Affirmations aren't just cute phrases you repeat in the mirror (though that can be part of it!). They're powerful statements that can actually rewire your brain. Think of them as loving little rewrites of the stories you've been telling yourself.

The science behind this is fascinating. According to Dr. Joe Dispenza in "Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself," every time you have a thought, you're creating neural pathways in your brain. When you consciously choose positive thoughts (affirmations), you're literally creating new neural networks that support your growth.

 

Why Most Affirmations Fail

Okay, here's where I need to be super honest with you. I see so many women failing with affirmations because they're doing what I call the "robot repeat." You know what I mean:

Standing in front of the mirror monotonously saying "I am wealthy, I am successful" while your bank account is in overdraft and you're not feeling it AT ALL.

Denise Duffield-Thomas (love her book "Chillpreneur"!) puts it perfectly: Your affirmations need to feel true-ish. They need to be believable enough that your brain doesn't immediately go "Yeah, right!"

 

Creating Affirmations That Actually Work

Here's my tried-and-true formula for creating affirmations that feel authentic and powerful:

1. Start where you are. Instead of: "I am a millionaire" Try: "I'm learning to manage my money wisely, and I'm getting better every day"
2. Make it personal. Instead of: "I attract love and light" Try: "I'm worthy of deep, meaningful relationships, and I'm open to receiving love"
3. Add feeling. Instead of: "I am successful" Try: "I feel confident and capable as I work toward my goals"

 

My Daily Affirmation Practice (And How You Can Create Yours)

Let me share what works for me, and you can adapt it to fit your life:

Morning Routine (takes 5-10 minutes):

✦ Write three things I'm grateful for

✦ Look in the mirror and say my core affirmations

✦ Visualize my day going smoothly

As Jen Sincero says in "You Are a Badass," the key is consistency. Pick a time that works for you and stick to it.

 

Real Life Examples That Work

Here are some of my favorite affirmations that have worked wonders for me and my clients:

For Career Growth: "I bring unique value to everything I do, and opportunities are always coming my way"

For Self-Love: "I accept myself fully for who I am right now, while excited about who I'm becoming"

For Relationships: "I attract healthy relationships that support my growth and bring joy to my life"

For Financial Abundance: "Money flows to me in expected and beautifully unexpected ways"

You can also check out our FREE wealth affirmation poster to get you started. Repeating supercharged affirmations daily will bring about fruitful results within 21 days! What are you waiting for?!

 

Getting Started: Your First Week

Here's your starter plan:

Day 1: Write down all the negative thoughts you catch yourself thinking

Day 2: Rewrite each negative thought into a gentle, positive affirmation

Day 3-7: Practice your new affirmations for just 5 minutes each morning

 

My Personal Tips for Success

✦ Keep an affirmation journal by your bed

✦ Record them in your own voice and listen during your commute

✦ Put sticky notes on your mirror (yes, it's cliché, but it works!)

✦ Share them with a friend who gets it

✦ Adjust them as you grow

 

When You're Struggling

Listen, there will be days when this feels hard or silly. That's normal! On those days, I want you to remember what Brené Brown teaches us about self-compassion – it's not about being perfect, it's about being present and authentic.

If you're feeling resistance, try this simple affirmation: "I'm open to positive change in my life, and I'm patient with myself as I grow."

 

Final Words of Love

You've got this girl! Start small, be consistent, and watch how these tiny shifts in your self-talk create massive changes in your life. Your future self will thank you for starting today.

 

With all my love and support, 

 

DD x

 

P.S. Want to dive deeper? These books changed my life and might change yours too:

✦ "You Can Heal Your Life" by Louise Hay

✦ "Super Attractor" by Gabrielle Bernstein

✦ "Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself" by Dr. Joe Dispenza